2 weeks ago
We know that #Lockdown3 is likely to be challenging for families affected by alcohol, drugs or gambling. Or that families may have new struggles as they continue to be stuck at home. But don't suffer in silence and don't be ashamed.
Support is still available for families, visit our website to find something that suits you. We also have our online forum where you can chat to others in a similar position: adfam.org.uk/COVID-19/covid-19-support
Don't miss our series of Top Tips for staying in the house. They apply to the whole family and can be really helpful whilst stuck at home in these cold months: adfam.org.uk/COVID-19/adfam-top-tips
Stay safe everyone, with love from the Adfam team. ... See MoreSee Less
4 weeks ago
We know that the festive period can be a hard time for families and friends affected by someone else's drug, alcohol or gambling problem. It is important to know that whilst usual services might be operating reduced hours, you are not alone. Visit our website for support links, helpline numbers and top tips to look after yourself over the festive period: adfam.org.uk/COVID-19/holidays ... See MoreSee Less
If you are struggling this year for Christmas, or know anyone who is, please get in touch ASAP. We can help you! ... See MoreSee Less
Words from Josh Connolly as a speaker at the Alcohol Change conference today,
Ceri here, I just wanted to share this, as hearing these words made me really gave me hope that more people will realise #coaisathing
For those of you that don’t know it was Josh that came up with this slogan for Nacoa, and how important it is, for as a child I’m sure many of us didn’t realise that being the child of an alcoholic was a thing, we often didn’t feel seen or supported, we just tried to protect our parent and were unable to have our own needs met.
Nacoa is here now, so let’s keep spreading the word so no child feels alone
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👋Hi, I’m Ceri, and I’m going to be taking over the Nacoa account for a few weeks, I’m very excited to get to know Nacoa followers better, to be sharing your stories, and sharing lots of exciting Nacoa news coming up!
Please say hi below, and ask me any questions you have about me or Nacoa, also send me in any stories, fundraising, or quotes you’d like me to share and I’ll do my best
A bit about me....
I found Nacoa around 6 years ago after making films about my mums addiction for Recovery Street Film Festival called ‘Understanding Mum’ & ‘Understanding Me’ they can be found on Nacoa’s YouTube channel with many others from me & so many other wonderful interviews www.youtube.com/user/NacoaUK
I found after very slowly sharing my story that my purpose now seems to be the voice of children of alcoholics, it really is my passion and I hope I can help others feel less alone.
This year has been a dream come true for me as I spoke in the House of Commons at Nacoa’s David Stafford memorial lecture, and then was honoured to become an Ambassador!
I also helped plan an amazing mural and poster campaign in Bristol and just a couple of weeks ago nerve wrackingly spoke on Itv news
My focus is always to reach the children struggling, who may have never spoken out, that might not know that there is help, it’s to speak to the little versions of me, and tell them Nacoa is there to listen 💙🔆 ... See MoreSee Less
“COVID-19 has negatively affected our nation’s mental health and has led millions of us to drink more heavily.” Our recent survey found that during lockdown, one in five adults in the UK were drinking more often and that stress was a big factor in that.
Read the findings from our survey about the rise in those struggling with their drinking and mental health, and the stigma they face: alcoholchange.org.uk/blog/2020/press-release-over-half-of-uk-drinkers-have-turned-to-alcohol-for-... #AlcoholAwarenessWeek ... See MoreSee Less
During the lockdown, many people have turned to alcohol to help cope. Recent research from Drinkaware found that more than a quarter of adults have been drinking more than usual.
For those who are worried about their drinking, help is out there!
Our Reach Out online chat service provides friendly, confidential, non-judgemental support to anyone worrying about alcohol issues. This includes people who are concerned about a loved one’s drinking.
Our team is on-hand every Monday to Friday between 9am and 3pm to listen to and support you. So if you need someone to talk to, get in touch! And if you know someone who you think might be interested, you could let them know about the service.
🗣 Start chatting at www.forwardtrust.org.uk/find-support/online-chat
Other useful resources:
👉 In Kent, the Lower My Drinking app can help people understand the impact of their drinking: www.kent.gov.uk/lowermydrinking
👉 People based in East Kent can access our alcohol services: www.forwardtrust.org.uk/our-services/community-drug-and-alcohol-services
👉 Drinkline is the national alcohol helpline: 0300 123 1110 (weekdays 9am to 8pm, weekends 11am to 4pm
👉 The National Association for Children of Alcoholics (Nacoa) provides a free, confidential helpline for children of alcohol-dependent parents: 0800 358 3456
👉 Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is free self-help groups: www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk
👉 Al-Anon Family Groups offers support to the families and friends of problem drinkers: www.al-anonuk.org.uk
👉 Adfam is a national charity working with families affected by drugs and alcohol: www.adfam.org.uk
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Definition of Codependence ~ a chronic, progressive, behavioural addiction ~
Codependence is a primary, progressive, chronic, fatal, and treatable condition which is caused by being raised in an emotionally dishonest, spiritually hostile environment. The primary environment is the family system which is part of the larger emotionally dishonest and dysfunctional society which is part of a civilization that is based on false beliefs about the nature and purpose of being human.
Codependence is characterized by dependence on outer or external sources for self-worth and self-definition. This outer or external dependence, combined with unhealed childhood emotional wounds which get reactivated whenever an emotional "button" is pushed, cause the Codependent to live life in reaction to, give power over self-esteem to, outside sources.
"The point that I am making is that our understanding of Codependence has evolved to realizing that this is not just about some dysfunctional families, our very role models, our prototypes, are dysfunctional. Our traditional cultural concepts of what a man is, of what a woman is, are twisted, distorted, almost comically bloated stereotypes of what masculine and feminine really are."
Quote from Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney ~
"Traditionally in this society women were taught to be codependent on - that is take their self-definition and self-worth from - their relationships with men, while men have been taught to be codependent on their success/career/work. That has changed somewhat in the past twenty or thirty years - but is still part of the reason that women have more of a tendency to sell their souls for relationships than men do. Codependence is all about giving outside or external influences power over our self-esteem. Everything outside of our 'self'- rather that is people, places and things or our own external appearance - has to do with ego-strength not self-worth. We all have equal worth because we are transcendent equal beings - not because of anything outside of us." ... See MoreSee Less
Timeline PhotosAbuse happens in many different ways, but behind every type of abuse is a misuse and imbalance of power and control. There are ways you can help if someone discloses they are a survivor
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Timeline Photos"If we don’t take action now, we will continue to see an unnecessary & avoidable increase in the number of substance related deaths." - Jon Shorrock, NHS IPN Chair
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We know from the helpline that, for children of alcohol-dependents, lack of money in the home is a frequent issue. But the suggestion that government food voucher support is a systemic contributor to COA adversity is not supportable in any meaningful way. ... See MoreSee Less
🙏👍4 years free from heroin. On the left, I was about to go to prison as a result of my drug use. On the right, I can finally genuinely smile again. Don’t give up on yourself, recovery is possible! #TheAddictsDiary ... See MoreSee Less
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🙏My name is Alex and today marks 3 years clean from crack and heroin. Thank you to everyone who has helped me along the way. I can’t believe I made it, y’all. #TheAddictsDiary ... See MoreSee Less
🙏No #BlackHistoryMonth celebration would be complete without a mention of Mary Jane Seacole. As a mixed-race woman living in the 19th century, what Mary Seacole achieved in her lifetime was remarkable. She broke social rules and prejudices to travel the world, run businesses and help those in need – even visiting the battlefield, sometimes under fire, to nurse the wounded. Best known for her work as a nurse in the Crimean War, Mary Seacole is remembered today as a nurse of global influence and significance, her reputation rivalling that of Florence Nightingale.
So many of our nurses follow in her footsteps today, showing incredible compassion and commitment to helping some of society’s most vulnerable break the cycle of addiction 💙
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Police waging war on county lines dealers make dozens of arrestsPolice waging war on county lines drug dealers have arrested 53 suspects and seized drugs, cash, firearms and Rolex watches. The Met’s Operation Trigona targeted individuals who ran 33 networks supplying crack cocaine and heroin from south-east London. A total of 47 men and six women, aged 16 and ... ... See MoreSee Less
🙏My dad was an addict. He died from an overdose in 2018.
I once got mad at him when his food stamp card was denied and I had to cover his groceries. It wasn’t about the money.
I gave him a hard time when he broke my glass measuring cup. It wasn’t about the cup.
He commented on a new haircut and I was enraged because he’d already seen it and I assumed he was too drunk to remember. It wasn’t about my hair.
I drove him from doctor to doctor, from rehab to rehab, but I was frequently short tempered. Visibly put out by what he required of me. It wasn’t about the time.
He was homeless for many years.
He used to stand on corners with a sign and ask for whatever money or food people were willing to give.
I loved him, but I was frequently embarrassed by him.
I was mad about my childhood and what bled into my adulthood, and I found any way to take it out on him.
He’s gone now and I’m not mad at him anymore. I’m mad at how much I let my inability to forgive him affect our relationship.
Now he is free and I’m chained, weighed down by all the grace I couldn’t bear to give a person who so wholly was in need of it.
Because my regret over withholding it is stronger than all the anger I felt throughout the years.
- Scarlett Longstreet ... See MoreSee Less
This resonates about how we can get stuck in 'punishing' which means we are not open to relationship. When we can accept the person and what caused them to be the way they are then we free ourselves of our own shackles.
I totally agree with you!